the 4-1-1 | Keeping you dialed in

Getting a second date is not as difficult or complicated as it may seem. Many people just try too hard. Most of us just need to relax, be ourselves, and remember to leave the other person wanting more. This means leaving a little sooner than you would really like to or revealing less about yourself than you might otherwise do.

If your date is easy to talk to and makes you feel comfortable, you may be tempted to offer too much information. You will have plenty of time to share your life story later. For now, leave him or her wanting to know more about you.

This is not to suggest that you should play games. It simply means you should remain just a bit guarded with your personal information until you get to know the other person better as well. This also applies to physical intimacy. Becoming too close physically before getting to know each other on a personal level doesn’t leave a lot to look forward to.

We have all seen people who overdo it on the first date and end up coming off a little desperate. Realize how much you have to offer and give your date just a glimpse of that. Don’t obsess or try to make everything perfect either. Be yourself and set out to have a good time in the here and now. Don’t start planning a future just yet; instead, enjoy the moment.

Leave your date wanting more, looking forward to more, and you will most likely be asked for (or get a “yes” when asking for) a second date. If you continue to follow this maxim, it may lead to a third date, a fourth, and so on. Then, you can begin to open up more and possibly begin to build a relationship.